In the follow-up to her bestselling book, The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, Dr. Wendy Mogel shows parents how to navigate the teenage years, when a child’s sense of entitlement and independence grows, the pressure to compete skyrockets, and communication becomes fraught with obstacles.
Mogel emphasizes empathy and guidance over micromanaging teens’ lives and overreacting to missteps. She reveals that emotional outbursts, rudeness, rule-breaking, staying up late, and other worrisome teen behaviors are in fact normal and necessary steps in psychological growth and character development to be met with thoughtful care, not anxiety. With her signature wit and warmth, Mogel gives parents the tools to do so, offering reassuring advice on:
• why influence is more effective than control
• teenage narcissism
• living graciously with rudeness
• the surprising value of ordinary work
• why risk is essential preparation for the post–high school years
• when to step in and when to step back
Read Lisa Belkin’s post discussing The Blessing of a B Minus in her New York Times Magazine daily blog, Motherlode: Adventures in Parenting.
Intermingling wisdom and guidelines from Judaism and adolescent psychology, Mogel compares the teen years to the journey from Egypt to the Promised Land. As kids wander in the ‘desert’ of adolescence, she advises parents to offer counsel and guidance, demonstrate empathy without entanglement, and resist the urge to intervene or rescue…Mogel’s compassion and authenticity will ring true with parents of all faiths facing the tumultuous teen years.
You don’t have to be religious, you don’t even have to be Jewish, to appreciate Mogel’s philosophy that allowing children to fall down and pick themselves up (with kisses as needed) is the way to raise resilient, self-confident kids.
~Lisa Belkin, The New York Times
Wise, witty, and well-written, this book is a treasure of common sense for anyone dealing with adolescents.
~Rabbi Harold Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People